It's my birthday weekend 🎂, I'll share some bits about it next week.

I know that there was a glitch in last week’s newsletter, and I’ve taken care of it this week! 🤓 Let's get into the Baddie Brief.

💌Letter from Quinesha

Not all feedback deserves a reaction. Here's how I filter it.

I got some feedback recently that didn't sit right with me.

Not because it was too harsh (sidenote- I was shocked that this person felt so comfortable delivering the feedback like that). But it wasn't true! And if I hadn't stopped to evaluate it, I could have easily internalized something that was meant to break me down. So instead of spiraling, I ran it through three questions.

Is this a trusted source?

Does this person know you? Do they have your best interests at heart? Some people give feedback from a place of power, not care. Which angle is this person coming from? If the source doesn’t pass that test, the feedback doesn’t get full weight.

Is this constructive, or just a difference in preference?

There's a difference between "here's something that could help you grow" and "I would have done it differently." One is feedback. The other is just an opinion disguising itself as feedback.

Is there actually any truth to this?​
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​Be honest with yourself here. Have you heard this before? Is there even a small inkling of truth in it? If yes, sit with it.Maybe the way it was delivered is clouding your ability to evaluate it clearly.

After going through these 3 questions, I decided that a piece of the feedback was worth considering and the rest was simply her opinion. I am the only person who can define me. I’m not a piece of clay that could be molded into what makes other people feel comfortable in every situation.

So What, What Now?

Not all feedback is good or true feedback. Some people are on a power trip and some people just don't have the empathy to deliver it well.

But this isn't a "they're all just jealous of you" post. That’s not the baddie vibe. This is a "run everything through a filter before you let it affect you" post.

Staying true to yourself doesn't mean being closed off to what others think, it means being discerning.

✨Baddie Spotlight

Coming soon! If you have a win or a lesson that you’d like to share with the other baddies in the community, reply and let me know! I want to be sure to feature nuggets from the Baddies in this space because I know we all have some Better Baddie lessons.

👀You Should Look Into

I have an older YouTube video, 5 People That Get In Your Way that connects to my letter! I'm going to tell you the five types of people you should never seek validation from and how to start trusting yourself instead. Seeking validation is natural, but when it comes from the wrong people, it can lead to self-doubt, burnout, and stagnation. Let me know what you think!

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📣 What's New at Be a Better Baddie?

The Baddie Circle launches on July 5th 🎉 The Baddie Circle is for women who are tired of pursuing their goals alone, who keep starting the same goal over and over, and overthink, overprepare, and underexecute. The Baddie Circle gives you a community that actually knows your goals, so you stop abandoning what matters to you and start building the life you actually want.

🌻Until Next Time

If you don’t know, BADDIE has a meaning!

Balanced | Authentic | Driven | Deserving | Iconic | Evolving

Today’s Baddie Brief really taps into being authentic to yourself while evolving. It’s a tough balance, but I know that a Baddie can get it done.

I'll see you baddies next time! Reply to this and let me know what you think!